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Bondage is a highly popular erotic fantasy and in the same time a issue which was not discussed largely. Therefore we consider important to underline a few important aspects for those willing to make of it a memorable experience.

We feel that the importance of attention to your lover's reactions is essential, especially if you try this for the first time, or even the second.

The first of the ways to play with bondage is the so-called traditional way, in which the "prisoner" is tied on a bed with four posts, legs spread. Support the "prisoner's" body with plenty of pillows.

Also keep in mind that exposure like this may inhibit the orgasm in some cases, and therefore at this point your attention should be directed towards making your lover feel comfortable and enjoying this new, exciting experience.

The most sensitive parts are: wrists, ankles, elbows, soles, thumbs and big toes. It is said that some endowed women break off halfway to tie these last two with a leather shoelace - but best way to find this out is to try it yourself.

As to the instruments for tying the "prisoner", you may use whatever comes to hand and is more appropriate, from straps to ribbons, old stockings, triangular bandages or leather straps.

Use whatever makes both of you feel comfortable, but try to avoid handcuffs, and the awkward apparatus sold by adult-toy-makers. Another important aspect is to be careful not to bruise your lover while tying up the wrists or ankles.

Nonetheless, the prisoner should be tied up so that he or she could signal in case something goes wrong.

As a reasonable but yet tremendously important caution we feel compelled to urge you not to play such bondage games with persons you barely know or whom you just met in a bar.

It is important that you understand that this game is for passionate, experienced, trusted lovers, and that it has a purpose: to increase their mutual trust, and to help them boost their erotic experiences.

Also a note should be made about the period of time of the game: it should not pass over half of hour until you untie your lover, as keeping him or her prisoners for a longer time may induce stress or anxiety, and you may kiss eroticism good-bye.

Never leave you lover tied up and go to sleep. Another statement we feel complied to make is that cruelty of any kind, such as tying up your scared lover, too tight cords, stuffing things into their mouths, or other crazy ideas belong to psychopathology rather than to love.

Therefore, do not give into such ideas. Bondage is an enjoyable erotic game if never painful or dangerous.

Moreover, it is important as it helps people get over cultural barriers such as perceiving erotic sensations in non or extra-genital areas of our body.

This is possible, and further more, it is a reality. A reality you can also experience if you feel gentle and trusting and prepared for.

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