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It is customary (but false) to believe that a man’s orgasm is the same whether he ejaculates or not. Let us see what really happens during this process.

If a man makes love and reaches the point of non-return, he will reach a short climax and then sink into the stupor of post-ejaculatory abyss. After ejaculation, most men discover that they are at the lowest stage of sexual excitement and that they have to climb back gradually, which could take a long time.

However, most men think that the purpose of lovemaking is ejaculation. Ejaculatory orgasm may appear as a passionate race, but after you experience the ecstatic, prolonged bliss of multiple orgasms, this ejaculatory discharge will seem pathetic and disappointing, unable to stand the comparison.

As in the case of any orgasm you experienced so far, you will first sense the excitement building up (either because of a physical stimulus, or because of a thought, fantasy, etc.). This state of excitement usually leads to an erection and, if the stimulation begins, you may experience different degrees of excitation, until you reach the “contraction” stage of an orgasm.

This stage is in fact the crossroads, as it may either lead to ejaculation, or to multiple orgasms. During the contraction stage, you may perceive a series of contractions of the prostate gland, each of them lasting from three to five seconds.

Although the intensity of these pleasant pelvic orgasms varies, and they may often be just as intense as the orgasms in the ejaculatory phase, in the beginning they may be moderate.

Now is the moment when you have to decide: instead of going on, continuing to the point of non-return, followed inevitably by ejaculation, stop for some moments, until you are in control of your excitation by slowing down your respiratory rhythm and maintaining a calm and attentive attitude.

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Another method is to contract your PC muscle around the vibrant prostate, until you gain some control over these spasms. Directing the energy from the area of the genitals to the spine, towards the upper parts of the body, will help you eliminate the pressure and the urge to ejaculate.

The level of the arousal will gradually decrease, preparing the way for another genital orgasm. Such multiple orgasms will lead to a different level of arousal, which builds up each time.

Important note: if you crave the orgasms in the contractile phase, you place yourself in jeopardy of ejaculating. Most men have discovered that they have to cease all stimulation right before experiencing this type of orgasm.

Many men practicing sexual continence tell how they “withdraw” in non-ejaculatory orgasms instead of rushing on to ejaculate. The idea is to be able to “stay” at this point without reaching the point of non-return. Thus, you will feel the pleasure from the contractions of the PC muscle, as well as those of the anal muscles.

It is up to each man to know how close he can get to experiencing multiple orgasms from the contraction phase. You will experience waves of ecstatic pleasure, and if your lover is a multi-orgasmic woman, who practices sexual continence as well, you are heading for paradise, because both of you will experience states of prolonged orgasms.

You no longer need to worry about getting your woman to have an orgasm, and then about having an orgasm of your own. The two of you will have the opportunity of experiencing the same time intense states of pleasure and happiness at the same time.

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If you are having difficulties in differentiating orgasm from ejaculation, you may start directing the energy up the spine, before reaching ejaculation.
According to the Tantric and Taoist traditions, the key in getting an all-body orgasm is to sublimate your sexual energy.

Once you succeed in sublimating this energy, you will discover in amazement that you can experience orgasmic sensations with other parts of your body, ones that you never considered orgasmic before.

The voluntary contraction of the PC muscle is also of great help in increasing your sensitivity of the pelvic area, as well as in controlling the orgasms in the contraction phase.
If you should ejaculate – which may happen while you are in the beginning of this practice – do not feel highly disappointed, or frustrated.

However, such experiences must not repeat too often. So transform them into opportunities for getting to know your body and its mechanisms better. Remember that practice requires time, and intimacy, both for yourself, and for your lover.