This theme has been treated with sentimentalism, lack of experience and superstition for a long time.
Now we will shed some light on it and bring a new understanding to the subject of love transfer, as it is, in its ineffable and bright nature.
We often encounter the expression “love exchange” regarding a love interaction between two human beings of opposite sex.
The majority of people live with the feeling that a love relation necessarily involves a kind of exchange between the two, a kind of barter based on the idea “you give me, so I give you” or in the other words “you love me, so I love you”.
In the case of true love, there is in fact a non-exchange based on implicit ideas like “I love you not for what you offer me, but for what you are” (for the divine self hidden inside you).
The one who really loves expects nothing in exchange and doesn’t alter his love based on the other’s behavior or love.
Such a relation is amplified by a perfect integration of the two lovers in sexual fusion.
The bigger the liberation of love from conditions, the more intense and profoundly transforming are the experiences of the two lovers during sexual fusion.
A love interaction implies a very subtle energetic and informational transfer between the two lovers. This transfer promotes, in time, the ability to reach the Androgynous State.
This transfer takes place on all the levels of the human being – physical, affective, mental and spiritual – and leads to an enrichment of the being, a completion with the other’s qualities and affinities. In this way, what is known as the Plentitude State occurs.
When there is a feeling of true love between the man and the woman involved in a sexual relation, only the beneficial aspects and qualities are transferred. But if during the fusion there is only physical attraction and there is no love between the two, the less beneficial aspects, defects and imperfections are also exchanged.
The harmony of a tantric couple can be compared with the harmony of a rhythmic dance. This harmony finds its best reflection during an erotic fusion. Love becomes the joy of spiritual transformation. The couple experiences that eternal and immutable moment when they discover the Divine Reality together.
From an emotional point of view, love is a resonance that can appear between two human beings of opposite sex. This resonance exists here in an undefined form and emerges like a state of profound spiritual communion.
By itself, it has the possibilities to bloom and to offer Infinity to the two lovers, but if this resonance is not directed towards the higher, superior frequencies, to the pure spiritual dimensions, it will lose its brilliancy in a short time.
The love that was at first a potential way to perfection will become an experimental residue of their tumultuous way of life.
This is the greatest drama for the majority of modern couples, because they have little or no idea on how they should develop their love or what real love means.
Reaching the highest point of the human condition, the ones who practice Tantra live the love of the most pure and subtlest of ideas. This way of living induces an ineffable and continuous joy – and we are not speaking about intellectual or dialectic counterfeits; we are speaking about an abstract, conceptual world of ideas.
Through the nature of the ideal love, there is no fanaticism possible, the erotic fusion is lived as an impersonal meeting, a Living Word, a celestial message of a New Dimension.
As previously mentioned, the problem of an “exchange” or “barter” type of love no longer applies. “I give you because you give me” appears at the dualistic level of the mental, but disappears once the aforementioned is put into practice.
In its base form this is the expression of a gross and very limited level of consciousnes. But from a spiritual point of view, only the transpersonal (spiritual) dimension of the human being permits the apparition of such a mutual and sublime transfer. This mutual transfer becomes a source of evolutionary potential for the both lovers if they know how to take advantage of it.
We are no longer speaking about a simple date or a usual relationship that is only a common and superficial form of “exchange”. Now there appears a superior trans-substantial transfer, that makes the two lovers become the living incarnation of the two universal and complementary principles: the male and the female, the solar and the lunar, and in the tantric tradition, Shiva and Shakti .