” With the same factors that bring slavery to the ignorant man, the wise man can free himself from the pain of this world. The main principle is that these factors should be accompanied by a lack of difference between the “mind” and the “heart”.”
The heart and the mind are two distinct parts of the human body considered in the West as the main cause of psychic disturbances. But – and it is better that you understand this very well – though the Body Temple is made of several parts, it represents an indestructible Divine Unity as a whole.
We often say, “the heart rules the mind” when, for example, someone loses his/her control because of strong emotions. We also say, “the head rules the heart” when the mind is cold and calculated and not at all influenced by feelings.
In both cases one center dominates the other. This “misunderstanding” between the mind and the heart always produced problems among humans and it is thus completely incompatible with ecstasy, which is free from selfishness and belongs to
In the mystical Eastern tradition they have the idea to
“give up to lust and pleasures of the flesh in order to conceive the pleasures of the spirit”. But in real life this is a hopeless effort, mainly because of the fact that what is forbidden will eventually and inevitably rise to the surface at the wrong time.
Tantra teaches us how to use all our physical, mental and loving abilities on the way to Final Freedom. This is how we understand everything as a whole. Thus emotions and passions can be turned into the joy of divine ecstasy.
But such a transformation can only take place because of a strong connection between the head and the heart, sense and emotion. The Tantric image of this process can be expressed in a metaphor; “the fire of emotion mixed with the waters of the wisdom”.
The notion of mutual exchange and enriching emotions represents an essential face of Tantric erotic games. It makes the exchange of emotions and wonderful feelings between lovers a real possibility.
Tantric love puts all aspects of emotions and of intellect together. It will lead the lovers to experience cosmic ecstasy by reaching the consciousness of the Universal Self.
“Where there is only lust there is no freedom. Where there is no freedom we cannot find pleasure. But pleasure, and freedom from pleasure, is in the hands of the one who is devoted to the Supreme Being.”
LOOSE CERTAIN HABITS THAT LIMIT YOU
Giving up certain negative habits or in other words giving up those attitudes that limit us from feeling deep happiness can accelerate the evolution of the human being. When you notice that you say or think: “But I cannot change THIS… I HAVE ALWAYS done it like that”, then you should know that “THIS” is the first habit that you have to get rid of.
Not being chaotic is your victory over negative habits. It is one of the most restrictive domains there is. Any act of will has a magical power and it is a lot more efficient than an automatism or than something done with no intention.
The body has an extraordinary ability to adapt, even when it is apparently, stiffened from rigid life conditions. The force necessary to make a change exists in every human being, but it is better not to wait for a crisis to appear in order to get rid of a negative habit. Our survival as a species depends on our capacity to change and adjust.
Mental habits are a lot more difficult to change than physical ones because they are never so obvious. Most of them exist because of how our parents or society have taught us. They limit our view on life and make us feel safe, though this it not at all true.
They make us forget about our inner Self and blur our power of comprehension and our conscience. This is dangerous for our intimate relations. Often we fight with others and do not understand them because we not aware of these habits.
In order to avoid this it is important and necessary to have a strong will. A couple should have a strong will in order to change themselves, to progress, to evolve spiritually. When the initial fear of change is overcome, then you can experience new realities in life.
Certain sexual restrictions throw a shadow on couple relations and that this is why Tantra requires absolute adaptability. All Eastern teachings on sexual mysteries underline the necessity of variation and spontaneity in life.