Unfortunately when thinking about “making love” most people imagine only one thing – the intimate physical contact. In case of harmonious couples who know and love each other, “making love” is not strictly limited to the immediate physical act. On the contrary, “making love” becomes a common state of mind and spirit, a state that they may share for more than one or two days. Such a couple reaches the point in which they are able to communicate quickly and so profoundly that even a glance can give rise to ecstatic passion. Kissing, passionately embracing and caressing are very important for a complete erotic fusion. Loving and caring couples who act this way in their intimate lives use every single opportunity to express their affection and adoration.
An affectionate touch or a tender caress is often much more important than a thousand words; probably everyone has experienced the passionate embrace at a certain moment, which made words futile and useless. These experiences amplify mutual appreciation and, not surprisingly, the erotic aspect of their lives gains in importance and enthusiasm. Sometimes these intimate, apparently insignificant things can express a simple “I love you” or, other times, they are obviously and plainly the prelude to an erotic act. Such a couple can communicate even without words because the two lovers reach a point where they are able to recognize precisely the meaning of the others behavior and are able to understand the signals which show that the other wants to make love.
LONG LASTING PRELUDE
This delicious way of initiating an erotic fusion becomes a longer and more profound anticipation of the act that will take place at a certain time in the near future.
Now you have the opportunity to see the difference for yourself and your partner, because this approach to sexuality will certainly generate beneficial changes in your lives, changes that will not go unnoticed. On the other hand, this approach endows you with the means of practically and intelligently handling the ups and downs of sexual appetite and desire. You will also notice that because of the harmony established between the two partners, the erotic interest appears sooner, together with the ability to act suitably. Thus, when the actual fusion occurs, sexual intercourse will be more profound and successful because it will take place on the basis of a complete awakening of both partners’ erotic interest in each other.
Thus you may deal with the variations in your sexual appetite much easier. Even a potential failure, viewed form a different perspective, based on the fact that the erotic relationship may be sensual even if not physically sexual, can be easily overlooked. It is interesting to note that the couple becomes free from tensions and stresses due to a healthy interest in sex. Consequently, the couple experiences an increase of erotic pleasure and they even make love longer and more intensely.
In a steady and long-term relationship lovers can reach a non-verbal level of communication and sense the feelings and thoughts of their partner.
Revealing a secret to your partner will preserve and intensify the mystery and communion between you.
For instance, the woman whispers into her lover’s ear, while dancing together, that she is wearing his favorite piece of lingerie. Touching “by accident” certain parts of his body can have an extraordinary effect. Some couples create a magical impression upon each other simply with a look.
Another secret revealed here is connected to the mysterious language of lovers, characteristic to each couple, in which they communicate even in public. Thus they have the possibility to share with each other their exact feelings, their erotic moods and expectations, feeling consequently a lot happier and intimate.
Here is a way in which couples will be less predisposed to suffering from jealousy. They should flirt almost all the time, trying to respond the other’s mysterious love-calls.
They will no longer consider other persons as threats because at this point they know that what they have together is worth a lot more than any superficial relationship. If this sounds like a dream to you or appears too difficult to be achieved, some simple solutions will be given here that empower you to improve your couple relationship.
Start by going back to the way you behaved in the beginning of your relationship, when you flirted naturally (most couples who did not flirt in the beginning find it hard to express their love outside intercourse). Offer one another gifts, with no reason. There is no need for them to be expensive, because what really matters are your thoughts and feelings when you offer them.
Kiss more. Call each other at least once a day to say “I love you.” Leave love-notes in unexpected places where you are sure she will find them. Date as if you are teenagers and this is your first date. Don’t forget that there’s always another option, another possibility to choose.
There are many people in love who for years, miss chances to be really happy. Many couples realize that they forgot how to behave, and only when they go back to the first stage of their relationship, do they feel the happiness they felt when they were courting each other constantly. However, you know that practice makes perfect and following these guidelines, you will soon see that you become an expert in the art of flirting and courtship. Be patient and keep in mind that your experience of life and the results obtained will soon amaze you.
A very simple and efficient method which will
bring wonderful results is to organize sensual vacations. Such “erotic mini-vacations” may last one night, a weekend or even longer. The main goal is to get out of the routine, regardless of the fact that you are in bed or out of it, to flirt with and really court your partner.
You can arrange this vacation in advance.
Thus you can talk about: an aphrodisiac breakfast in bed, a sensual massage, making love in unusual places, a new erotic position or any other kind of erotic fusion that you are certain your lover will fully enjoy. Or, why not spend a whole night making all your shared fantasies come true. Naturally, every couple has a specific idea about what is good for them, what suits them and what they have always loved to do.
It is better to send these signs a couple of days before the event so that your partner is surprised, but not surpassed by the events. Acting this way will allow your partner to anticipate and even fantasize about what is going to happen. It doesn’t have to be too expensive – you can put it together in your house or you can have a special dinner or a picnic for two.
Whatever you do and wherever you are, what really matters is abandoning yourself completely to your partner and trying to do wonderful things together.
Afterwards, take time to discuss what happened, describe your feelings in detail, in order to see what went right and what didn’t. It would be best to take turns in organizing these vacations, so that you both have the opportunity to choose, act and decide according to your own preferences.
IT’S KISSING TIME!!
Don’t miss any opportunity to learn how to be a better kisser. Spend a lot of time practicing the art of kissing when you are turned on or whenever you feel sexy. As a result of erotic massage, you may learn to caress your lover in an extremely erotic way. Grant yourself a whole night and announce to your lover that you will not make love in an ordinary manner. Then get creative, use your imagination and be happy.
Some couples become highly aroused even if they do not intend to have sexual intercourse, while for other couples it is harder. Of course you could end by simply touching each other or one of you could help the other have an orgasm, without ejaculation. It is not necessary for erotic play to end with orgasm and ejaculation, even if this was the way you used to make love. Oral stimulation without the ejaculatory-orgasm is well known and also preferred by most people.
THE “REAL-MAN” MYTH
It is regrettable that nowadays many men firmly believe that any form of physical love must end with intercourse. Many women (maybe most of them) repeatedly say that they would prefer more kisses and embraces before and during an intimate moment. Generally almost all men think that a “real man” has sex for hours and never plays like a teenager. This determines that a fairly large number of women who do not want an intimate relation refuse men and any actions that might lead to lovemaking.
On the other hand, many men consider that touching and embracing automatically lead to sexual intercourse. They have become accustomed to this pattern of thinking to such a degree that they are unable to distinguish between the physical act and other forms of fusing with their beloved. A change in this pattern of thought requires a lot of time and effort. Such a man needs encouragement, to be helped and taught how to enjoy sensual, erotic experiences without intercourse. It will probably seem strange to him in the beginning, but in time he will become more self-assured, will-powered and virile.
WHY NOT SEX?
Why shouldn’t a couple want to have sex? There are a lot of reasons. Few of us want or can make love all the time or, to be more precise, exactly when the person we love wants to. This is why sex is not an option, applicable no matter what, which helps maintain the intimacy and harmony of a couple.
Thus, in a long-term relationship, there are a lot of situations in which both partners would like to express their mutual love. It is not always possible too make love for example: during the last months of pregnancy, immediately after birth, after a surgical procedure, in between stages of an illness etc. All these situations plead in favor of the method presented previously, because in such cases you will be able to make love with your beloved in the absence of the physical act itself.
For many loving, strong couples making love without sex plays a special part in day-to-day life, even if none of the previous situations exists. Acting like this, the couples bring into their lives the missing element and express their love in unusual, yet appealing ways which enrich their relationship.
But, as in the case of any other problem, this also depends on the harmony and equilibrium between sex and erotic manifestations that exclude physical contact. The goal should be to reach and maintain that ideal state in which both of you are exceptionally satisfied, fulfilled and happy about your love life.