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The causes of a woman rejecting the addresses of a man are as follows:
1. Affection for her husband
2. Desire of lawful progeny
3. Want of opportunity
4. Anger at being addressed by the man too familiarly
5. Difference in rank of life
6. Want of certainty on account of the man being devoted travelling
7. Thinking that the man may be attached to some other person
8. Fear of the man's not keeping his intentions secret

9. Thinking that the man is too devoted to his friends, and has too great a regard for them
10. The apprehension that he is not in earnest
11. Bashfulness on account of his being an illustrious man
12. Fear on account of his being powerful, or possessed of too impetuous passion, in the case of the deer woman
13. Bashfulness on account of his being too clever
14. The thought of having once lived with him on friendly terms only
15. Contempt of his want of knowledge of the world
16. Distrust of his low character

17. Disgust at his want of perception of her love for him
18. In the case of an elephant woman, the thought that he is a hare man, or a man of weak passion
19. Compassion lest anything should befall him on account of his passion
20. Despair at her own imperfections
21. Fear of discovery
22. Disillusion at seeing his grey hair or shabby appearance
23. Fear that he may be employed by her husband to test her chastity
24. The thought that he has too much regard for morality

Whichever of the above causes a man may detect, he should endeavour to remove it from the very beginning.

Thus, the bashfulness that may arise from his greatness or his ability, he should remove by showing his great love and affection for her.

The difficulty of the want of opportunity, or of his inaccessibility, he should remove by showing her some easy way of access. The excessive respect entertained by the woman for him should be removed by making himself very familiar.

The difficulties that arise from his being thought a low character he should remove by showing his valour and his wisdom; those that come from neglect by extra attention; and those that arise from fear by giving her proper encouragement.