“The mind wonders and is always restless, it is hard to keep an eye on it, hard to keep it in check; be as the wise man who tames it completely in the same way that the trainer tames wild animals.”
The deep search into our inner universe is an extremely important step in our erotic evolution. The impurities and subconscious psychic obstacles that hinder our spiritual progress will be eliminated only if the atmosphere between the two lovers is one of complete honesty and self-sacrifice. When we look inside ourselves in order to discover the SELF, we will find a whole new world.
Self-analysis will help our senses become more refined and elevated. On the other hand, sexual routine leads to the death of these senses and this is why introspection is extremely valuable.
When one of the lovers depends exclusively upon the other as a material and comfortable support and not as a permanent inner search, the result may be a lack of balance that will affect the relationship.
Real love does not find ground when it is “planted” in a fantasyland of selfish desires between the two lovers. This will not allow the perfect, dreamy love game to exist; on the contrary, it will progressively limit it, leading to a no-way-out situation.
Failure in love or marriage happens mainly because one of them does not meet the other’s expectations. This informs us that there is no real, honest intimacy between them and that one is more selfish than the other. In such cases the couples may go on living, but in an atmosphere of interior separation from the other.
There is a wonderful and clear affirmation on self-knowledge in the famous Chinese philosophical work called “Tao te king” from the 6-th century B. C. The author, Lao Tse, says: “Knowing another brings wisdom; knowing the spirit brings enlightenment; self-control creates a huge inner power.”
The search into our inner universe or self-analysis represents both a jumping board and life-support. It gives you great mental power necessary to progress spiritually.
Positive self-analysis increases the intuitive ability to observe a lot of subtle aspects, creating a state of special receptivity. By objectively analyzing ourselves, we will be able to eliminate the different negative impressions and doubts that always tend to diminish our relationships.
Truth and honesty in a couple lead to spontaneity and break conventionality and routine. Allow yourself to be wrapped up in the desire of knowing your true SELF, eliminate fear and doubt forever.
Self-analysis is a preliminary step in meditation techniques. It can take place at any moment and is an internal thinking process, completely different from the chaotic action of our minds.
This inner search starts by observing the relationships that we have with things and events around us. Try to see all the experiences as connected to each other and also to you. Observe even the most apparently unimportant details and cultivate a firm yet detached attitude. Thoroughly examine everything that comes to you and try to understand the reasons behind each action or situation.
THE FIRST EXERCISE OF SELF-ANALYSIS:
Sit comfortably in front of a mirror, close your eyes and empty your mind of all thoughts. Then, slowly open your eyes and look at the image in the mirror as if you are meeting that person for the first time.
Observe the impression it has on you. Notice how the changes in your facial expression concur with your thoughts and emotions. Try to establish a certain relationship with your image in the mirror, relax your face and keep your breathing under control.
If you notice certain negative thoughts, bring the equilibrium back to your attitudes and emotions by using your breath to stabilize your psyche. Imagine that you are replacing each negative attitude with a positive one and try to feel the “new ego” as the real and most wanted one.
Slowly, close your eyes and try to assimilate this experience, imagining that it is taking place all over your being, on all levels.
The essence of meditation is to use your mind in order to achieve Self-knowledge. In the first phase of this process, different exterior objects might help you, but be careful not to rely on them exclusively. For example, candlelight may prove to be of real help.
THE SECOND EXERCISE OF SELF-ANALYSIS:
Take a candle and light it. Look at the light and focus all your thoughts on it. Then compare your attitudes with its dance. Imagine that the flames destroy and burn all your mental impurities.
Close your eyes and project the image of the flame between your eyebrows and keep that image burning there. Put your whole being in this interior light and use it in your analysis as a guide to your essence.
By knowing yourself you will be able to know other people as well. Do not criticize others before correcting all your own imperfections. Through an efficient self-analysis you will gain a special power for introspection. Such introspection requires courage and honesty.
A perseverant and rigorous analysis will eliminate all interior obstacles in order to create a wonderful inner potential for tantric love. This analysis is the most direct path to experiences of non-duality and mystical consciousness.
“Always be vigilant and conscious in everything you do: when you walk, sit, eat, sleep, and so on. Avoid hiding your own imperfections and also avoid talking about others’ faults. It is difficult to master thoughts, but with perseverance, controlling your mind will finally lead you to success. Be conscious of the fact that the one who meditates, the object of meditation and the act itself are inseparable.”
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