WE CAN OFFER TRUE LOVE ONLY WHEN WE ARE NOT DEPENDENT ON THE OTHER
By transcending physical love you can reach the state of detachment from your body, but you may still be dependant on the other. If for instance, your lover becomes distant, then you are left alone again.
Therefore, this is the next step you must take. When you feel you have reached spiritual communion with your lover, you need to be aware that you also have to go beyond his or her soul.
You need to “use” it, so to speak, as an access gate to what lies behind the soul.
In the beginning, you may get to perceive ones soul through transfiguration, then through further transfiguration you can go beyond this soul, and see what is above, an essential, archetypal manifestation, an aspect of the divine consciousness, the divine love, a certain worshipped deity, in other words, a higher sphere of consciousness.
Only if you reach this level you can say you have succeeded in becoming free from the dependence on the others soul, as well as from his or her body.
Furthermore, even if at a certain point your lover leaves, not only physically but also with their soul, you can still remain connected to what you had before, and this is the real path to freedom.
Once again, we are not talking about indifference, we are not saying that their love is gone, but simply that it has just now, truly begun.
True love cannot occur between two helpless people leaning against each other for help and support.
Because there cannot be true love between a man and a woman who have not surpassed their physical or emotional level, if they are still being dependant on each other, physically or emotionally.
If two powerful people, each cherishing their freedom stay together, then this means that what keeps them together is not dependence, but something a lot deeper: LOVE.
Only when you are no longer dependant on the other can you offer him or her, your true love. Generally speaking, the beginners on the Tantric path easily go beyond the first level, the body, but the ones who somehow manage to go beyond the second level are but a few.
In Rajneeshs vision, the first step from sexuality to love has been taken, but there is more work to be done.
Even embellished, the soul of another person is seen in a very personal manner, and one starts to be dependant on this beautiful soul.
Thus, when the woman becomes more and more attractive, you still see in her still an individual, a strictly human soul, nothing more, and then you grow attached to her.
Now, there is another step that must be taken quickly, after reaching this stage. In addition, during this step, transfiguration is still the key.
A SEXUAL ACT WITHOUT CONSECRATION IS LIKE A MISSED TRIP
Regardless of the form of Tantra that you practice, right after consecration, you should move onto transfiguration.
What is consecration? It is a draft of the path you are about to go on. No arrow will ever reach the target if not shot in the right direction – the direction of the target.
You should not shoot an arrow hoping that maybe the wind will take the arrow to the target.
Most often, even if shot in the direction of the target, the arrow may not reach the center. Likewise, a sexual act begun without consecration hoping that during the actual act you will manage to give it a spiritual orientation is a tricky thing to do, and it often leads to only one thing: failure.
This is why consecration in the beginning is so important: it prepares the final state, the spiritual fusion, the ultimate aspect into which the two lovers transfigure themselves.
If a clear and precise direction is set in the beginning, then the chances of getting there grow considerably. If lovemaking wanders into a profane direction, known as the ejaculatory orgasm, then this amazing trip is missed.
Consequently, consecrating lovemaking represents the sacred act of offering the consequences of lovemaking or in other words the fruits of lovemaking to the immortal spirit – Atman, present in each of us.
Thus, lovemaking becomes like a sacrificial fire, in which the limiting and restraining individualities of the two lovers are sacrificed, thus granting access to the Supreme Self.