Tantra Magazine

PART 3
BECOMING A MAN
Sometimes puberty can be a difficult time for men. Now they have to get used to the physical and psychic changes that occur in their own being.

They have to live up to the expectations of their parents and teachers and, in the mean time, they have to define their role in society, to determine their own beliefs and goals.

Now they need the friendship and guidance of more experienced men who can act as role models in their struggle to assert their own identity. It is a difficult, demanding, changing period of their life and that is why they need lots of understanding, patience and good advice.

MALE SEXUAL EXPERIENCE
During this period, a young male will probably experience exciting but somehow frightening new sexual feelings. He may start to have “wet dreams” which are nocturnal emissions. Erections occur frequently, and often unexpectedly.

He will start having more and more sexual fantasies which may end with masturbation. It is common for boys of this age to compare penises and frequency of ejaculation, and in some cases to even masturbate together.

For most boys, these sexual games are only a passing phase in which they gain knowledge about their own bodies or compare their development with others.

Males become more and more interested in the opposite sex and relationships. Thus, it is very important to find out about the difference between sexuality and emotional happiness, about the female psyche, about sexually transmitted diseases, about contraception and about sexual continence and the methods one can use to take the best from sexuality and to satisfy a woman.

Though at this age the relationships do not always last long, the emotions involved are very intense and they offer a the chance for sexual experimentation. Now they may start to feel the pressure to loose their virginity as soon as possible.

Studies have proved that most of men claim to have lost their virginity at around 16-17 years old, but, of course, there are many who wait until they are much older.

From now on, besides their concern about studying, career and about coping with the demands made from them, males start to assign a lot of importance to their relationship with women.

In the beginning he may want to have a large number of relationships so that he can get enough sexual and emotional experience, but as he grows older to will start to look for his true mate.

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MAN’S SEXUAL PEAK
The frequency of orgasm (either through masturbation or lovemaking) and the amount of resting time he needs between each ejaculation determine the sexual peak of men.

The period of their life when they are most sexually potent is during their teenage years and early twenties when their virility stabilizes. From now on, unless he learns how to preserve his sexual potential through the means of sexual continence, his virility starts to decline and he will need longer periods of recovery between each ejaculation.

In time men acquire more knowledge about their sexual responses and become more sensitive to a woman’s sexual and emotional needs, which can make them better lovers, with more staying power during coitus or even sexually continent (able to live multiple and prolonged orgasms without ejaculating). This undoubtedly enhances the sexual, emotional and spiritual satisfaction of both of the lovers.


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