In the following, we will introduce a series of exercises whose objectives are:
- making you more aware of your sexual organs
- fortifying your sexual muscles
- improving your control over your individual sexual muscles
This technique involves the anal muscles, both internal and external, as well as the “lifting” muscles, situated in the interior of the body. If you are in a state of semi-erection, you may easily observe the effect of those contractions.
Through the action of the “lifting” muscle, the penis may respond to the contractions of the woman’s vagina and this secret language may enrich the couple’s life with new erotic sensations.
Mula Bandha is an exercise that you can practice anywhere, anytime and in any position: sitting, lying, or even while doing a headstand or other yoga postures.
In the beginning, we will act on the whole pelvic area while contracting these muscles, but in time we will be able to distinguish between the anal muscles and the penile ones.
We will be able to contract them individually, in order to become capable of relaxing them at will. During an ejaculation, you may observe the ejaculatory spasm propagating and helping you locate the muscles responsible for ejaculation.
One of the most efficient procedures in controlling ejaculation is to relax the sexual muscles when you are close to ejaculation. Learn to relax the muscular complex of the pelvic floor in any position you may be.
In order to do this, breathe calmly, relax the pelvic muscles, the anal muscles and the rest of the muscles in the area. Take your time and relax completely, even if in the beginning this may take some time.
In time you will be able to relax quicker, almost instantaneously – a fact that will prove useful during intercourse because it will help you avoid ejaculation.
Remember the fractionate urinating technique and try to urinate with pauses of 5 to 30 seconds between the flow of urine. The practice of this technique makes the control of ejaculation a lot easier.
The exercises presented so far stressed the importance of having strong sexual muscles. Likewise, when you are getting close to the point of non-return you have to relax those muscles and thus avoid ejaculation.
In order to practice contract these muscles to the maximum while having a strong erection. Then relax these muscles, contract again for a few seconds and relax again.
If you insist on the relaxation, the erection weakens and eventually disappears. In the beginning you should do this while standing still, but in time, you can perform this exercise during intercourse.
When you get close to the point of non-return, you may easily notice an acceleration of the breath, which causes your pelvic muscles to become tense.
If you allow this type of breathing to go on, you will soon reach ejaculation, but if you control it at this point, you will also control the ejaculatory process.
Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh, a tantric spiritual master wrote: “when the man is anxious, he reaches ejaculation quickly. When he is not anxious, the ejaculation may be delayed for hours or even days, especially now that it is no longer necessary.
Two lovers who are united by a deep love can strengthen one another and thus ejaculation is no longer necessary. The two lovers may carry on making love for years on end, without exhausting their energies.
Eventually, sex will no longer be the base for erotic excitement, as it is now, but it will become the jumping board towards spirituality and complete union with God.
Nevertheless, this is possible only if you surrender yourselves to the vital energy within each of you. Then and only then will you be able to abandon yourselves to love.”
In his “Introduction to Tantric Buddhism”, S.B.Dasgupta notes: “according to the adepts of Vajrayana and Sahajayana, the pleasure caused by ejaculation is highly inferior in both quality and intensity to the bliss that comes about through seminal retention, stopping the descendant movement of the sperm and directing its energy upwards.
This ascension makes it “flow” to the lotus situated in the crown of the head and stay there. The bliss obtained through the sublimation of sexual energy is named MAHA _ SUKHA (great bliss or great pleasure).”