Many people consider that part of what makes a man, a man, lies in his erection.

Usually, the erection appears during foreplay or while the man expects sexual intercourse. However, tension, age, and other psychic factors make it difficult to get an erection sometimes.
Therefore, we shall introduce the causes that generate this fact and the possibilities to fight it, according to the Eastern art of lovemaking.
First, it is highly recommend that after a man has had an orgasm (preferably without ejaculation) he does not hurry towards a new erection. The process of gaining another erection should be slow, and lacking any kind of stress, with a woman’s help if possible.
The union of the two lovers through a sexual act performed with sexual continence makes it necessary to fulfill two apparently opposing conditions: maintaining a strong erection, which needs an intense erotic stimulation, and avoiding ejaculation precisely because of this intense stimulation.

In order to “live” with both these conditions, we have to know that sexual play depends on three distinct nervous groups:



  • one that maintains the sensorial-motor connection between the sexual organs and the brain, consequently our main “sexual organ”;
  • the other, the parasympathetic system, causes and maintains the erection;
  • and the last one, the sympathetic system, is responsible for ejaculation.


It is equally important that we know a few aspects connected to the phenomenon of the erection. There are two fundamental types of erections:

1. Nocturnal or morning erections, which are purely reflexive
2. Erections caused by erotic stimulation, either directly or through dreams.

The first type of erection particularly interests us because it brings two specific cases into the light: the first occurs in older couples where the man can no longer perform as well, and the second occurs due to “phony impotence” in which most men blame their lack of potency on some physical problems.

However, except in some very rare and exceptional cases, every night, every man has at least five full erections, ever since he was young.

The German researchers quoted by doctor Sherman J. Siber in his book: “The Male”, have studied great numbers of men in their sleep and determined that a man’s penis becomes erect for 25 minutes to 84 minutes, during the Rapid Eye Movement phase, or in other words while dreaming.

If the subject is awakened, he usually remembers the content of his dream. Furthermore, it has been proven that nocturnal erections are not connected to the content of the dream, which most of the time had nothing erotic in it.

Thus, with some “erectile” math we realize that by the age of 75, the average penis was “up” for 33,000 hours – this is about four years, four months, four weeks, leaving aside the leap years.

Knowing that an erection depends on the parasympathetic nervous system, whose role is also to slow the breath and heartbeats, as well as to dilate the blood vessels, and that ejaculation depends on the sympathetic nervous system, one may easily notice that impotence and premature ejaculation have one thing in common: the over-excitation of the sympathetic nervous system due to anxiety.

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Here’s a classic situation: a man meets a woman whom he desires greatly. He thinks anxiously: “but what if I’m not up to the task”. Thus, the fear of a humiliating failure is over-exciting his sympathetic nervous system.

The result: his heart beats like crazy and his breath becomes rapid and superficial. These are all processes that inhibit the action of his “opponent”, the parasympathetic nervous system, in charge of erections.

Then, despite the best efforts of the disconcerted seducer, the result will be totally disappointing. What’s worse, he may ejaculate even before entering the woman.

The experienced woman may save the day by calming and helping her partner relax. Once his sympathetic nervous system is relaxed, his becomes breath deep and regular, the parasympathetic system takes over and opens the gates towards an erotic paradise.