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Now, when you started learning how to control your sexual muscles you became capable of learning some techniques so to help you control your sexual energy when your arousal reaches high levels.

The more you will practice the exercises presented on our site so far, the easier it will be for you to practice the ones that follow and avoid crossing the point of non-return.

STOP
The most important thing that you must do is to maintain awareness of your own rhythm of arousal and to stop before you reach the point of no return.

The name given to this technique in sexology is the stop/start technique and it is based on the idea that it is better to stop sooner than later, even if you feel you could keep going for a while longer.

In the beginning, you will need to cease the stimulation for at least 30-40 seconds, so that the impulse to ejaculate will have time to fade away.

BREATH
The deep breath described in the article Breath control – The basics of sexual continence is highly important for controlling the rhythm of your arousal and for avoiding ejaculation.

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However, some men in advanced stages of sexual continence, breathe rapidly in order to avoid ejaculation (yogic tradition named this pattern of breathing the fire breath), and direct the sexual energy to the head area. Deep breathing will help you acquire a state of inner calm and peace, while the rapid breathing helps you transform the sexual energy into an inner “fire” once you are advanced enough to handle it.

THE PC MUSCLE CONTRACTION
As we already mentioned, the PC muscle surrounds the prostate through which the semen must pass before expulsion.

If you learn how to contract the prostate during orgasm in the contraction phase (when the prostate contracts involuntarily), you will learn how to avoid the discharge of semen. The dreadful point of non-return is situated somewhere between contractions and expulsion.

A man who practices lovemaking with sexual continence described his experience in the following terms: “I avoid ejaculation simply by contracting my PC muscle at the right time. It took some time to reach this result, but it is definitely worth the effort.”

SQUEEZING
Many specialists in sexology recommend the squeezing of the penis (see also the article Squeezing – A secret way to avoid ejaculation), which is a technique that was developed for men confronted with premature ejaculation.

The exercise is quite simple. Place the index and middle finger of the right hand on the posterior part of the penis, and the thumb on its anterior side and then squeeze. Some men hold their penis as they hold the handle of a bicycle, with all their hand, and this helps them reduce their excitation.

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Although these techniques may be very effective in solo practice, they are quite inappropriate when making love, because they imply solitude. However, if this is the only way for you to avoid ejaculation, you should do it anyway.

Another effective technique is to press the base of your penis, because this pressure will help you control your arousal and will strengthen your erections.

The pressure of the point between the anus and sexual organs while contracting the PC muscle is one of the most ancient and efficient Taoist techniques used to control sexual energy and prevent ejaculation.

This helps delay ejaculation through concentration as well as through the interruption of the ejaculatory flux. First, locate the point situated slightly in front of the anus. If you identified the correct area, then you should feel a small hollow when you press.

You will then have to push up a little, until you feel a slight articulation. You may use this technique even during intercourse without pulling out.