Men usually succeed in having a certain degree of control on their sexual excitement, once they have grown as lovers, and once their desire is to satisfy their beloved.
This ability is often translated in terms of distracting their mind from the sexual excitement, instead of learning how to become more and more sensitive to this excitement.
A real control of ejaculation comes only when a man has learned his own individual rhythm of excitement, and not when he ignores it.
Once you become aware of your ever-increasing pleasure, you will find it easier to walk on the path of sexual continence, or in other words of multiple orgasms.
In order to fully experience sexual pleasure, men have to relax and to abandon themselves to it. But, if a man relaxes and abandons at the wrong moment, he may ejaculate because of this.
WHAT YOU HAVE TO KNOW ABOUT EJACULATION
The discharge of the semen from the body takes place in two phases. In the first one, the contracting phase (called sometimes the emission phase) the prostate contracts and pushes the semen through the urethra. In the expulsion phase, the semen discharges in the urethra and goes further on up through the penis.
When you will be capable of having multiple orgasms, you will experience those pleasant pelvic contractions without ejaculating. Although there are men who ejaculate several times during one act (especially teenagers) it has to be clear from now on that multiple orgasms (without ejaculation) do not refer to these kinds of multiple ejaculations.
If a man is very excited, there may appear some drops of transparent liquid. The prostate and other glands, such as the Cowper glands produce this translucent fluid that usually eliminated before the discharge of the semen.
It is in fact an alkaline based liquid needed for the lubrication of the urethra and for preparing the way for semen. The Taoists named this liquid water and distinguish it from the milk, which represents the seed.
This fluid is perfectly natural, its presence indicates the orgasm of the “contractile” phase, and it may contain a number of spermatozoids. This is usually called “pre-ejaculation”.
WHAT HAPPENS TO THE SEMEN WHEN I DO NOT EJACULATE?
The semen is reabsorbed by the organism, in a manner somewhat similar to the process occurring in the case of a man who had a vasectomy.
Nonetheless, the effects of Taoist and Tantric techniques on the human organism are quite different from the effects of a vasectomy.
A vasectomy implies that the deferent tube is cut right above the testicles and consequently, the sperm can no longer pass through the tube.
The semen is finally re-absorbed inside the body, but quite a number of men complain because of a state of congestion in the testicles and pelvis.
Therefore, if you had a vasectomy or you simply practice sexual continence, it is important that you practice techniques to sublimate the sexual energy from the sexual area.
These techniques help your body transform the semen into other substances, process known as transmutation. Then, the energy that comes as a result is sublimated to the upper chakras, releasing the tension from the pelvis.
The involuntary contractions of orgasms in the contractile phase, without ejaculation, massage the prostate, keeping it healthy and decongested.
CAN THE FACT THAT I DO NOT EJACULATE HARM ME IN ANY WAY?
The Taoist and Tantric adepts have practiced the techniques for transmutation of the semen and sublimation of sexual energy into other refined forms of energy for thousands of years without any side effects. Furthermore, they noticed that their health and longevity have been substantially improved.
THE ORGASMIC MASCULINE POTENTIAL
Instead of the usual, ejaculatory orgasm, the “Big-Bang” type, the methods of transforming and sublimating the sexual energy endow you with the possibility of raising this energy even from the contractile phase (before ejaculation). This allows you to experiment many multiple orgasms, perceived with your entire body, not just your genital area.
If you feel that ejaculation is imminent, block it by squeezing it with your fingers. This will prolong your orgasm and preserve your energy.
If you succeeded in avoiding the ejaculation, you may direct your energy along the spine, up to the crown of the head, in order to conclude the lovemaking session with your whole body radiating energy.
It is a fact that the Tantric masters used the energy from sexual intercourse without ejaculation for a spiritual purpose, i.e. they sublimated this energy and used it to reach the state of divine ecstasy, even revelation of the Supreme Self, Atman.
Also, it is known that the same Tantric masters used to maintain hard erections for hours, during sexual intercourse without ejaculation, even at old age.
WHERE DID THE ERECTION GO?
I DID NOT EJACULATE, BUT I LOST MY ERECTION. WHAT HAPPENED?
If the sperm was not discharged or reabsorbed, then only one thing may happen. Sometimes, when practicing sexual continence, you may have a non-ejaculatory orgasm and still you may suddenly lose the erection.
In this case you may have experienced a so-called “retrograde ejaculation” (in case you did not simply lose the erection). If this is the case, the semen is discharged into the urinary vesicle and it will be discharged from the body once you urinate.
However, since you lost your erection and your semen (even through urination), you have not succeeded in correctly practicing sexual continence.
It is important for you to know that the effects of retrograde ejaculation are just as damaging as those of a “regular” ejaculation.
However, there is a method to see for yourselves if what happened was a retrograde ejaculation: after lovemaking, take a bowl and urinate in it. If the urine is not clear, then you eliminated the semen through it.