The huge importance of the mental attitude in the case of masturbation speaks for itself. Owing to the processes of transmutation and sublimation of the sexual energy into other forms of energy, the exploration of one’s own body (without the discharge of the erotic energy) should be performed in the absence of guilt.

It is important to note that the sexual energy has to be sublimated, and the goal of this practice is not the mere sensuous pleasure. Consecrate unconditionally the orgasmic waves of pleasure to the awakening of the divine aspects in your being.

An important element in the case of a woman pleasing herself is fantasy. Pervert fantasies (owing to the processes of resonance they entail) may have harmful effects on the psychic and mind of a woman.

On the contrary, an intelligent woman should cultivate creative, beneficialial, positive fantasy (associated usually with non-ejaculatory orgasm) as it helps her resonate with beneficialial energies from the Macrocosm . Thus, the woman may imagine she is making love to her ideal lover.

In ancient China and Japan, there were traditional objects symbolizing the husband’s LINGAM . They are made from turtle shell, animal corn, or simply wood; the husband’s name is usually carved in the object, most often quite artistically.

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Such objects are carefully preserved in a special box. The wife uses this object (named HARIKATA) to masturbate herself, with sexual continence , or to make love to her husband’s other lovers, when he was away for a longer while.

The wives would use the special object in order to get sexual satisfaction, and the first wife usually took on the role of the man. The object was used as a substitute for the concrete presence of the husband. This was a normal practice in those times.

However, the interesting fact is that the object was usually ‘charged’ with subtle, psychic energy through meditation, invocation of the highest aspects to be revealed through erotic experiences and consecration of the energy to God. Thus, this object would symbolize the Shiva -Lingam, the one who bestows infinite ecstasy and total transcendence to his devotees.

Thus, two (or more) women may recourse to the act of lovemaking in order to awaken and strengthen their vital essence. Such erotic games harmoniously awaken and stimulate the sexuality of each woman participating, on the condition that their mental attitude towards lovemaking is “nourishing”, not “vampirical”.

In the case in which the harmonious flow of energy and the exchange of Yin essence between vital, sensuous women occurs (keep in mind that we refer to lovemaking without ejaculation or discharge of sexual energy), each of them will shortly afterwards notice a significant increase of their sensuality, and of their potential sexual energy, as well as accentuated feminine qualities.

As a direct consequence of such erotic practice, the women engaged in the caress, massage and lovemaking to another woman would become more generous, more altruistic, and more compassionate.

More over, it is a fact of common knowledge that women have a natural tendency toward sharing a special intimacy, of sharing their fantasies, idea, experience, and feelings. This does not happen often with men.

Another important aspect is that all these erotic displays between women should be based on love. Taoist writings promote the idea that when women share their secrets (in an affectionate and generous manner), “their face becomes clear, shining like the Full Moon, and their eyes are much brighter.”