Tantra Magazine

PART 1
About 30 years ago, couples looked forward to honeymoon lovemaking as for the most of them it was the first time that they had intercourse. Nowadays, about 94% of the couples getting married have already made love and some of them even with several lovers.

For the other 6% of the couples, lovemaking is something they have been anxiously looking forward to for some time, especially if it is the first time that the woman makes love. The first time has always been a very special moment both for a man and especially for a woman.

The loss of virginity may cause a few physical problems for women. When the hymen is stretched with the fingers or penis, women may feel some pain, or, a small tear or blood may occur.

All these problems can be diminished if she is very well lubricated , preferably by being highly aroused, and if her husband does not hurry things.

GETTING READY
However, there are few women who have not had actual intercourse until the wedding night or at least have not stretched their hymen by using tampons, with fingers during masturbation or while petting with their lover. Thus, true “virginity” on the wedding night is rare today.

In order to avoid disappointment on the wedding night, the man should play with his lover, trying to stretch the woman’s vaginal opening.

The woman can do it by herself when she is relaxed while taking a hot bath or, she can ask her lover to do this while they are petting. It is normal for a slight bleeding to occur so do not worry when this happens.

Before stretching the woman’s vaginal opening, it is important for the man to highly arouse his lover by kissing and cuddling her; then he should also lubricate his fingers either with saliva or with a natural lubricant.

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FIRST-NIGHT NERVES
Men that have never made love to a woman may encounter some sexual problems such as premature ejaculation or impotence. If the woman can be patient and understanding in these delicate moments she can help him overcome this unwilling disappointment. It usually proves to be a big reward in the end.

A shy and unexperienced woman can be so tense that she can get scared of being penetrated even if her vagina physically takes a man’s penis.

Usually this may happen to virgin women who can have some unconscious problems for which they have not made love until on this wedding night.

The physical consequence is that they tightens up and cannot admit a husband’s penis even if they played with petting and fingers before. The solution to this problems are again tenderness, understanding and patience, after all it was your choice to marry a virgin.


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